batskeets | I like this blog.

This is really good: http://generationmeh.com/2009/11/14/coming-of-emotional-age/

This spoke to me because it outlines some of the transitions I've felt myself going through, in more recent years.

Expecting less of ourselves and more of others: having a parent who constantly asked more of me, and the raging sense of inferiority that comes with that, I struggle a lot with not expecting too much of myself. But it's getting better. And, I think I'm becoming less tolerant of other people's crap, and I am less forgiving of being subjected to the same wrongs and mistakes by others over and over.

Prioritizing being understood over simply being liked: This. So much. In all of my relationships. I can't overstate the importance of feeling that someone actually GETS it. I couldn't have said this better.

Losing our tolerance for uncertainty: I don't know that this is necessarily true of me. I suppose I've never had a particularly high tolerance for uncertainty, because I do like my plans and lists. And alphabetizing things. But then again, I got twitchy enough with anxiety over such things that I sought out counseling, so... yeah, maybe.

Realizing that being happy and/or "successful" isn't a zero sum game: I don't think I've ever really been the type to get jealous of a true friend over their good fortune. But I feel happiness on their behalf more strongly now than I used to, and I'm less quick to feel envious towards people who are not my friends. Still haven't quite figured out how to express this very well, but that's a whole different enchilada.

I'm tired today. Tomorrow is probably going to be equal parts stressful and boring. Blegh.