I like this blog.
Nov. 17th, 2009 04:44 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
batskeetsThis is really good: http://generationmeh.com/2009/11/14/coming-of-emotional-age/
This spoke to me because it outlines some of the transitions I've felt myself going through, in more recent years.
Expecting less of ourselves and more of others: having a parent who constantly asked more of me, and the raging sense of inferiority that comes with that, I struggle a lot with not expecting too much of myself. But it's getting better. And, I think I'm becoming less tolerant of other people's crap, and I am less forgiving of being subjected to the same wrongs and mistakes by others over and over.
Prioritizing being understood over simply being liked: This. So much. In all of my relationships. I can't overstate the importance of feeling that someone actually GETS it. I couldn't have said this better.
Losing our tolerance for uncertainty: I don't know that this is necessarily true of me. I suppose I've never had a particularly high tolerance for uncertainty, because I do like my plans and lists. And alphabetizing things. But then again, I got twitchy enough with anxiety over such things that I sought out counseling, so... yeah, maybe.
Realizing that being happy and/or "successful" isn't a zero sum game: I don't think I've ever really been the type to get jealous of a true friend over their good fortune. But I feel happiness on their behalf more strongly now than I used to, and I'm less quick to feel envious towards people who are not my friends. Still haven't quite figured out how to express this very well, but that's a whole different enchilada.
I'm tired today. Tomorrow is probably going to be equal parts stressful and boring. Blegh.
This spoke to me because it outlines some of the transitions I've felt myself going through, in more recent years.
Expecting less of ourselves and more of others: having a parent who constantly asked more of me, and the raging sense of inferiority that comes with that, I struggle a lot with not expecting too much of myself. But it's getting better. And, I think I'm becoming less tolerant of other people's crap, and I am less forgiving of being subjected to the same wrongs and mistakes by others over and over.
Prioritizing being understood over simply being liked: This. So much. In all of my relationships. I can't overstate the importance of feeling that someone actually GETS it. I couldn't have said this better.
Losing our tolerance for uncertainty: I don't know that this is necessarily true of me. I suppose I've never had a particularly high tolerance for uncertainty, because I do like my plans and lists. And alphabetizing things. But then again, I got twitchy enough with anxiety over such things that I sought out counseling, so... yeah, maybe.
Realizing that being happy and/or "successful" isn't a zero sum game: I don't think I've ever really been the type to get jealous of a true friend over their good fortune. But I feel happiness on their behalf more strongly now than I used to, and I'm less quick to feel envious towards people who are not my friends. Still haven't quite figured out how to express this very well, but that's a whole different enchilada.
I'm tired today. Tomorrow is probably going to be equal parts stressful and boring. Blegh.
