Somewhat-Brutal Honesty Hour, #3
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batskeetsI'm an incredible, honest-to-god lesbian! (yeah, except for the lesbian part :p)
It's truly awesome to have even a small handful of people that you're really close to and that you'd trust with anything. Why? Because you end up finding out a whole bunch of fun, random little facts about other people. It's the kind of thing that a hoarder of secrets such as myself thrives on. I like watching and gathering info about people, trying to put together the puzzle that is a particular person, and try to figure out what makes them tick. It's an interesting challenge that I give myself sometimes.
Of course, this little fetish of mine sometimes leads to learning a few people's opinions of ME, which can get a little weird. So far I haven't heard anything horrid, but it's kind of unnerving...
...especially when you find out that someone you previously associated with in passing thought you were hot, but didn't ask you out because "they thought you were a lesbian."
. . .
Yeah, apparently a guy I used to work with said exactly that. He thought I was cute, and seemed cool, and he would have asked me out, but he thought I was a lesbian, hands down. He actually said "oh, so you turned one, eh?" to someone I dated. He honestly thought, or at least seemed to think, that I dated women exclusively.
I would just like to ask: WHAT THE FUCK?
Perhaps I should reiterate this point right off the bat: I LIKE MALES. I'm 100% totally straight. I'm not even bisexual, or bi-curious. Nothing makes me hotter than a good ol' Y chromosome, baby.
And it's not as though I haven't *thought* about the possibility either, because I figure just about everyone who's not a complete homophobe has probably considered it at some point in their lives. The difference is that, for me, I invariably up going "ew ew ew ew ew" at the end of any train of thought on that particular track.
So apparently, there's some part of my behaviour that makes at least some guys think "wow, too bad, that one's a lesbian." And I'll give you this point: I am certainly not the most feminine of females. My gender test result certainly seems indicative of that. But I'm sure there are homosexual women out there who would fervently insist that masculinity (or the lack thereof) has no real connection with lesbianism.
Perhaps it's aggressiveness? But that can't be it, because I tend to be pretty non-aggressive and focused on compromise. Maybe it was just because I was so friggin' surly from working early? Is it because I'm not built like a twelve-year-old boy like most modern women are expected to be?
What the hell is it? :p Is this just an isolated incident from somebody who was completely without a clue, or is there something to it?
Pssh, I dunno. Maybe it's the combat boots.
It's truly awesome to have even a small handful of people that you're really close to and that you'd trust with anything. Why? Because you end up finding out a whole bunch of fun, random little facts about other people. It's the kind of thing that a hoarder of secrets such as myself thrives on. I like watching and gathering info about people, trying to put together the puzzle that is a particular person, and try to figure out what makes them tick. It's an interesting challenge that I give myself sometimes.
Of course, this little fetish of mine sometimes leads to learning a few people's opinions of ME, which can get a little weird. So far I haven't heard anything horrid, but it's kind of unnerving...
...especially when you find out that someone you previously associated with in passing thought you were hot, but didn't ask you out because "they thought you were a lesbian."
. . .
Yeah, apparently a guy I used to work with said exactly that. He thought I was cute, and seemed cool, and he would have asked me out, but he thought I was a lesbian, hands down. He actually said "oh, so you turned one, eh?" to someone I dated. He honestly thought, or at least seemed to think, that I dated women exclusively.
I would just like to ask: WHAT THE FUCK?
Perhaps I should reiterate this point right off the bat: I LIKE MALES. I'm 100% totally straight. I'm not even bisexual, or bi-curious. Nothing makes me hotter than a good ol' Y chromosome, baby.
And it's not as though I haven't *thought* about the possibility either, because I figure just about everyone who's not a complete homophobe has probably considered it at some point in their lives. The difference is that, for me, I invariably up going "ew ew ew ew ew" at the end of any train of thought on that particular track.
So apparently, there's some part of my behaviour that makes at least some guys think "wow, too bad, that one's a lesbian." And I'll give you this point: I am certainly not the most feminine of females. My gender test result certainly seems indicative of that. But I'm sure there are homosexual women out there who would fervently insist that masculinity (or the lack thereof) has no real connection with lesbianism.
Perhaps it's aggressiveness? But that can't be it, because I tend to be pretty non-aggressive and focused on compromise. Maybe it was just because I was so friggin' surly from working early? Is it because I'm not built like a twelve-year-old boy like most modern women are expected to be?
What the hell is it? :p Is this just an isolated incident from somebody who was completely without a clue, or is there something to it?
Pssh, I dunno. Maybe it's the combat boots.
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You couldn't be a lesbian...
Just kidding!
I -wish- I was a lesbian, because I'd DEMAND to be called a rug-muncher and a muff diver. Those are like the best slurs I've ever heard. They're so not-offensive! They're flattering! It's like when people used to call me a slut when I was single/virginal! "Wow!! These people think I look like I'm getting laid?? COOL!!!" It's as hurtful as being called a honkey!!! It just really sucks that there aren't any good ethnic slurs for Ukrainians or Armenians. What, call me a commie? Oh, OUCH. Maybe back in 1987...
I've only been hit on once by a woman, and that was on my 19th birthday, a few months before I decided to leave the shitty college I was at. Ah... it's not so much that I was bothered by her being female, I was more bothered by the fact that she was saying how she liked to run around with "younger girls" and stuff. Granted, I _was_ hanging out at the LGB center, but still...
Also, boyfriendo thought I was an angry lesbian because I liked Sleater-Kinney. Boy, did I ever prove to him how very not gay I am! Hoo hoo hoo...
Re: You couldn't be a lesbian...
Date: 2001-02-15 09:12 pm (UTC)Now I must try to recall if I played any Sleater-Kinney during work hours... bahaha!
I'm not a guy, but here's my opinion anyway...
Date: 2001-02-15 08:12 pm (UTC)2.) You know about computers, strike two :)
3.) Correct me if I'm wrong on this, but it sounds like your roommates are all guys, and you're not dating them -- inferior happy meal boy from #1 might make that strike three.
Just my opinion :)
Maybe commenting about how is SOOoooo CuuuUUUuute around guys would help dispel any rumors, too :)
Re: I'm not a guy, but here's my opinion anyway...
Date: 2001-02-15 09:17 pm (UTC)Compy is FRIEND. EVERYONE must learn! :D
I actually *am* dating one of the guys who lives in this apartment. The other is my best friend. Of course, having a male best friend may or may not help... on one hand, LesbianGirl could be sharing advice with the guy on how to get chicks, but on the other hand, StraightGirl could be pumping her guy best friend for insight on the male species.
Oh yes, I like to look at famous males, (preferably those that have more to offer than just a pretty face) but "SOOoooo CuuuUUUuute" is not exactly my style. ^_-
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