Crap.

[batskeets]

So I met this dude at a networking event a couple of weeks ago, and he's been e-mailing me periodically to let me know about other networking events and such. If it's the person I'm guessing it is, he kept coming up and talking to me throughout the event, and I figured that he thought I was cute or something. I wouldn't have been particularly interested even if I were single, though, so I was just trying to be nice, since being an asshole does not win you new clients.

Of course, thanks to the fact that Google Talk is linked with your Gmail account, now he's chatting with me, and asking about coming to the Indiana Jones movie with me, and I'm slightly weirded out. I *think* he knows that Ben and I are more than just business partners, but I'm not sure he does, so I can't tell if he's asking for a date or what. DOES NOT WANT!

Worst part is, I'm not even sure if it's the same guy, or if it's one of the *other* people from the same networking thinger, because I heard so many new names that night that I only remember maybe two of them. XD

Help?

EDIT: I said I'd have to check with Ben about when we were going, and then he said TTYL and logged off. Crisis averted, haha!

These situations can be such a pain, with all this not being able to tell what people are really after. Can people just be completely, transparently *obvious* with me or something? Because you know, I'm pretty dense about this sort of thing.

Comments

[solagirl.livejournal.com]

Just say - "You are welcome to join me, my boyfriend and my pals for the movie." That way, if all he is interested in is a date, he can bow out. Also, it makes it clear that there will be a bunch of people around, so if he is a creep your peeps can steer him away!

[skeets.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I was getting all primed to madly drop "my boyfriend my boyfriend my boyfriend" comments into the conversation and see what resulted, buuuut after I said I'd have to check with Ben about when we were going, he said TTYL and logged off. XD

[halfempty.livejournal.com]

iawtc. I, along most guys-that-are-maybe-interested, actually expect a girl to somehow drop a boyfriend/S.O. line somewhere the first couple-three times I talk to them. It's actually appreciated. On the flip side, if the warning is never dropped and we find out a month later after spending two weeks mentally rehearsing asking said girl out, we feel we have cause for protest.

[xplo-eristotle.livejournal.com]

No one except a social retard is going to be that blunt with you.. social disfavor is the most likely outcome of that sort of behavior, and a sufficient deterrent.

I always thought it would be handy if people would wear some sort of armband or electronic device that would advertise their status and intent to everyone present. Of course, people could still lie about those things, but at least it would provide clues.

[randvek.livejournal.com]

I always thought it would be handy if people would wear some sort of armband or electronic device that would advertise their status and intent to everyone present.

If only such a device existed. A ring, perhaps. Shoot, I just can't think of anything like that.

[skeets.livejournal.com]

Sadly, those are harder to come by.

[lillilah]

Actually, I was going to suggest that you wear a ring for networking events where you want it to be really clear that you are there for work not dating. It doesn't have to be gigantic or diamond. My wedding ring is small, but even a plain band gets the point across.

[randvek.livejournal.com]

I hope you're not saying that out of frustration.

[skeets.livejournal.com]

Heh, not especially. ;)

[xplo-eristotle.livejournal.com]

Yeah, that gets rid of the married and engaged people who aren't looking to cheat. Everyone else is still a big question mark.