Thick and thin
May. 8th, 2008 05:09 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
batskeetsBeing thin-skinned really blows. Maybe I just had too many people being mean to me when I was a kid, but I take things personally.
Things that aren't said with the intention of being hurtful? They still hurt. People offering me advice when I haven't asked for it? Makes me feel like I'm being regarded as an ignorant person with bad judgment.
It's not as though my judgment is that BAD, either. I avoid substance abuse, I pick good friends, I don't invite senseless danger into my life. But, after having "a certain somebody" trying to tell me what to do for the past 28 years, my ability to take advice from *anybody* is pretty thoroughly squashed.
I want to be understood and respected, like anyone. I want to be listened to. I want to be trusted to make choices based on my own judgment. I want to ask questions when I decide that I need help, not simply have people thrusting advice upon me when they don't know the whole story.
When I don't feel listened to, trusted, or respected, I get mad. I could try not to get mad, but then I wonder if I'm just letting myself be stepped on. Staying quiet and holding in the negativity doesn't work either. So where do we go from there?
This probably doesn't make a lot of sense, but we all know how good I am at explaining things (i.e. "not very"), so there you have it.
Things that aren't said with the intention of being hurtful? They still hurt. People offering me advice when I haven't asked for it? Makes me feel like I'm being regarded as an ignorant person with bad judgment.
It's not as though my judgment is that BAD, either. I avoid substance abuse, I pick good friends, I don't invite senseless danger into my life. But, after having "a certain somebody" trying to tell me what to do for the past 28 years, my ability to take advice from *anybody* is pretty thoroughly squashed.
I want to be understood and respected, like anyone. I want to be listened to. I want to be trusted to make choices based on my own judgment. I want to ask questions when I decide that I need help, not simply have people thrusting advice upon me when they don't know the whole story.
When I don't feel listened to, trusted, or respected, I get mad. I could try not to get mad, but then I wonder if I'm just letting myself be stepped on. Staying quiet and holding in the negativity doesn't work either. So where do we go from there?
This probably doesn't make a lot of sense, but we all know how good I am at explaining things (i.e. "not very"), so there you have it.
