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batskeetsI'm going to be all mushy about Ben for a minute, because it's his birthday tomorrow:
I have to admit that, when I first laid eyes on him, there was a definite "wow" that went off in my brain. Not simply because of looks--although I sure do like to look at him!--but I'm generally pretty good and spotting the pretty-but-boring types before I even talk to them, so I don't pay them any mind.
That instinct kicked in with Ben, because in spite of my reservations, I could tell that he was *not* that type. :)
We didn't exactly give each other a lot of trust, at first, and I had certain expectations about him, both good and bad. But, so far, he has defied my pessimistic expectations, and exceeded my hopeful ones.
He's a person of far more depth and sensitivity than I allowed myself to believe, at first. His brain seems like it's constantly hungry, because he's always reading or listening or looking for those interesting little things that he doesn't already know. If he wants to know something, he'll hunt it down without even hesitating.
Sometimes, his focus moves so fast that we end up in a completely different corner of the conversational universe before we even realize it, but that's really cool. I'm also like that, at times, so I'm sure that's a contributing factor (heh), but he'll still pick up and run with thoughts that I wouldn't expect anyone else to. He's adaptable, and he's full of ideas.
I think he's one of the few people in my life who notices when something's off, which is already a big deal. But, he'll also say something about it, and he'll keep experimenting, and changing strategies, and just *asking*, until I pony up. He'll dig through and try to make things right, so that everything *is* great, and you're not just pretending that it's great.
He listens, and he watches, and he acts on what he observes. He'll say the hard things. He makes it easier for *me* to say the hard things. He's never afraid to express unpopular opinions. He apologizes for things he does wrong, but he doesn't apologize for who he is.
Sometimes, I'll find that the things he loves best about me are the things I'd never think to love about myself, and I think he appreciates a lot of the people he's close to that way. He doesn't like to bullshit people about the things that matter, and he'll show you something different about yourself, if you let him.
More than anything, being around him reminds you that life is full of wacky, insane, and completely awesome possibilities, because he knows it and believes it himself, and he has the guts to go out and get them.
I don't know if I'll ever get tired of seeing his face every day. His smile lights him up so much that I can't help smiling, too. Sure, I could imagine my life without him in it, but I know that I don't want to.
We can work together, play together, and just *be* together. I'm really grateful for that. :)
I have to admit that, when I first laid eyes on him, there was a definite "wow" that went off in my brain. Not simply because of looks--although I sure do like to look at him!--but I'm generally pretty good and spotting the pretty-but-boring types before I even talk to them, so I don't pay them any mind.
That instinct kicked in with Ben, because in spite of my reservations, I could tell that he was *not* that type. :)
We didn't exactly give each other a lot of trust, at first, and I had certain expectations about him, both good and bad. But, so far, he has defied my pessimistic expectations, and exceeded my hopeful ones.
He's a person of far more depth and sensitivity than I allowed myself to believe, at first. His brain seems like it's constantly hungry, because he's always reading or listening or looking for those interesting little things that he doesn't already know. If he wants to know something, he'll hunt it down without even hesitating.
Sometimes, his focus moves so fast that we end up in a completely different corner of the conversational universe before we even realize it, but that's really cool. I'm also like that, at times, so I'm sure that's a contributing factor (heh), but he'll still pick up and run with thoughts that I wouldn't expect anyone else to. He's adaptable, and he's full of ideas.
I think he's one of the few people in my life who notices when something's off, which is already a big deal. But, he'll also say something about it, and he'll keep experimenting, and changing strategies, and just *asking*, until I pony up. He'll dig through and try to make things right, so that everything *is* great, and you're not just pretending that it's great.
He listens, and he watches, and he acts on what he observes. He'll say the hard things. He makes it easier for *me* to say the hard things. He's never afraid to express unpopular opinions. He apologizes for things he does wrong, but he doesn't apologize for who he is.
Sometimes, I'll find that the things he loves best about me are the things I'd never think to love about myself, and I think he appreciates a lot of the people he's close to that way. He doesn't like to bullshit people about the things that matter, and he'll show you something different about yourself, if you let him.
More than anything, being around him reminds you that life is full of wacky, insane, and completely awesome possibilities, because he knows it and believes it himself, and he has the guts to go out and get them.
I don't know if I'll ever get tired of seeing his face every day. His smile lights him up so much that I can't help smiling, too. Sure, I could imagine my life without him in it, but I know that I don't want to.
We can work together, play together, and just *be* together. I'm really grateful for that. :)
