Everybody wants yo' man!
Jan. 17th, 2001 03:03 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
batskeetsSo James comes home from Grants Pass the other day, and he's telling me that a girl he knew was going to ask him out, until she found out that he was still dating me. ^^; This is at least the 3rd time that I know of when somebody's been overtly after him, and he claims that girls *never* noticed him until I came along.
So that brings me to this: a lot of people like to cite a theory that girls can "sense" when a guy is spoken for, and that it automatically makes them want him more. I've always thought that it was a load of crap, because it's totally accountable.
See, most people have a basic level of self-confidence, but also a basic level of self-deprecation. When you're single, you're going to be more self-deprecating, and less self-confident, since being alone can often be depressing and taxing on one's psyche. When you're taken, however, your self-confident side flourishes, because you have another person, with an objective perspective on your personal worth, that is, through the act of dating you, actually confirming your self-confident side's theory that you're the bee's knees.
Now, it's a common fact that self-confidence, in a healthy amount, is *very* sexy, and makes a guy much more noticeable than he would be without it. So it stands to reason that it's only natural for girls to go after guys who are taken, because they have an extra self-confidence boost that makes girls notice them when they otherwise wouldn't.
So yes, ladies, everybody's gonna want your man more than they did before you started dating him. Such a *comforting* thought, huh? ^_-
So that brings me to this: a lot of people like to cite a theory that girls can "sense" when a guy is spoken for, and that it automatically makes them want him more. I've always thought that it was a load of crap, because it's totally accountable.
See, most people have a basic level of self-confidence, but also a basic level of self-deprecation. When you're single, you're going to be more self-deprecating, and less self-confident, since being alone can often be depressing and taxing on one's psyche. When you're taken, however, your self-confident side flourishes, because you have another person, with an objective perspective on your personal worth, that is, through the act of dating you, actually confirming your self-confident side's theory that you're the bee's knees.
Now, it's a common fact that self-confidence, in a healthy amount, is *very* sexy, and makes a guy much more noticeable than he would be without it. So it stands to reason that it's only natural for girls to go after guys who are taken, because they have an extra self-confidence boost that makes girls notice them when they otherwise wouldn't.
So yes, ladies, everybody's gonna want your man more than they did before you started dating him. Such a *comforting* thought, huh? ^_-
