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Okay, seriously. What in blue blazes is this? I'm not sure if it's the author's fault, or the quotes that were used, or something else entirely, but that article makes me feel pretty outraged.
Don't get me wrong, if a woman wants to do the housewife thing, that's cool. If she's making a conscious choice to be a homemaker, because she *wants* to, then hey, more power to her. I wouldn't argue with it.
With the aforementioned article, however, it almost sounds like the pod people came and sucked out her brain. It sounds as though her existence completely revolves around her husband, and that there's no aspect of her life that isn't dictated by her husband. Maybe she's the type of person who really doesn't want to think about what to do with herself all day, but I have a hard time believing that a situation like that is fulfilling.
I'm of the belief that a husband and wife? Are PARTNERS. They're supposed to cooperate, and work together, and talk about their problems! If one person has to surrender their dreams, their wants, the things that make them happy, what kind of relationship is that? You're with each other for what should be the rest of your life, and you'll need to support each other to make it that far. That means supporting each other in your endeavors as you move through life. Or, in the instance that one of you feels that you can't give that support, at least being willing to rationally talk about the reasons why.
Having someone manage the finances and give you pocket money? That's something a parent does! Doing everything another person tells you? Maybe that works in grade school or the Army. Devoting intense discussions to how you can make your husband feel more powerful and dominant? If he really needs that much attention paid to his masculine ego, then he probably has bigger problems than a kowtowing housewife can fix.
Why does "femininity" still seem to go hand-in-hand with subservience? If I have to give up a bit of my "feminine" side in order to have a say in what happens in MY LIFE, that's a sacrifice I'm more than willing to make.
Don't get me wrong, if a woman wants to do the housewife thing, that's cool. If she's making a conscious choice to be a homemaker, because she *wants* to, then hey, more power to her. I wouldn't argue with it.
With the aforementioned article, however, it almost sounds like the pod people came and sucked out her brain. It sounds as though her existence completely revolves around her husband, and that there's no aspect of her life that isn't dictated by her husband. Maybe she's the type of person who really doesn't want to think about what to do with herself all day, but I have a hard time believing that a situation like that is fulfilling.
I'm of the belief that a husband and wife? Are PARTNERS. They're supposed to cooperate, and work together, and talk about their problems! If one person has to surrender their dreams, their wants, the things that make them happy, what kind of relationship is that? You're with each other for what should be the rest of your life, and you'll need to support each other to make it that far. That means supporting each other in your endeavors as you move through life. Or, in the instance that one of you feels that you can't give that support, at least being willing to rationally talk about the reasons why.
Having someone manage the finances and give you pocket money? That's something a parent does! Doing everything another person tells you? Maybe that works in grade school or the Army. Devoting intense discussions to how you can make your husband feel more powerful and dominant? If he really needs that much attention paid to his masculine ego, then he probably has bigger problems than a kowtowing housewife can fix.
Why does "femininity" still seem to go hand-in-hand with subservience? If I have to give up a bit of my "feminine" side in order to have a say in what happens in MY LIFE, that's a sacrifice I'm more than willing to make.
