Low tolerance
Aug. 20th, 2009 03:25 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
batskeetsSo I've been doing this whole crazy training and losing weight thing since April or so, and it seems to be sticking. Something clicked for me mentally, and a change in mindset happened that let me start thinking more positively about myself. I couldn't tell you what happened there, exactly, but I guess I decided to let go, and start believing it when I tried to tell myself that I'm awesome.
The weird thing is, since this mental shift, I find that I have a much lower tolerance for people talking down about themselves.
Boy was doing some headshots for some friend of his the other day, and she kept fretting over how her cheeks looked funny and jowly, and Boy would change the lighting or angle, but she kept whining about it and it drove. Me. INSANE. My original theory was that most would agree that she's a conventionally cute chick, so she was probably just fishing for compliments. (that's one of the things that makes me hate the female condition)
But, now I'm hearing back from people about their new employee photos, and they think the photography is great, but quite a few will make some comment like, "this one's the least offensive," or some other unneccesary, self-deprecating comment about their own appearance. And that's been annoying me like crazy, too!
Seriously. People get old, people gain weight, and not everybody looks like an airbrushed movie star. Hell, NOBODY actually looks like an airbrushed movie star! If people are unhappy with something, they should change it. And if they can't change it, then they should at least give themselves permission to stop beating themselves up about it.
We're more than some silly mugshot could ever hope to capture, and we deserve to treat ourselves better. The media is already telling us on a daily basis that we're fat, ugly, and unattractive, so why do it to ourselves, too?
Interestingly, though, I find that this does NOT apply to my friends! Just people I don't know socially. My brain doesn't even go there when a friend of mine is feeling down on themselves. Seriously, you guys, don't ever think that you're annoying me by bringing up this sort of thing... I've been there, and I know you and love you and know your story. Anything I can do to help you see the beauty and general awesomeness I see in you is completely worth it to me, and I will listen to the ends of the earth if I have to.
I don't feel that way towards my clients, either. When I do sessions with people, we get to know each other through emails and calls before and after, and we spend several hours on the actual shoot, so we build a sort of relationship and an understanding there.
I guess it's just more frustrating with someone I don't know socially and haven't built any sort of relationship with, because I know I can't do anything to help them see the positive things that I see in them. And I can see where that'd get annoying, because I hate feeling powerless.
The weird thing is, since this mental shift, I find that I have a much lower tolerance for people talking down about themselves.
Boy was doing some headshots for some friend of his the other day, and she kept fretting over how her cheeks looked funny and jowly, and Boy would change the lighting or angle, but she kept whining about it and it drove. Me. INSANE. My original theory was that most would agree that she's a conventionally cute chick, so she was probably just fishing for compliments. (that's one of the things that makes me hate the female condition)
But, now I'm hearing back from people about their new employee photos, and they think the photography is great, but quite a few will make some comment like, "this one's the least offensive," or some other unneccesary, self-deprecating comment about their own appearance. And that's been annoying me like crazy, too!
Seriously. People get old, people gain weight, and not everybody looks like an airbrushed movie star. Hell, NOBODY actually looks like an airbrushed movie star! If people are unhappy with something, they should change it. And if they can't change it, then they should at least give themselves permission to stop beating themselves up about it.
We're more than some silly mugshot could ever hope to capture, and we deserve to treat ourselves better. The media is already telling us on a daily basis that we're fat, ugly, and unattractive, so why do it to ourselves, too?
Interestingly, though, I find that this does NOT apply to my friends! Just people I don't know socially. My brain doesn't even go there when a friend of mine is feeling down on themselves. Seriously, you guys, don't ever think that you're annoying me by bringing up this sort of thing... I've been there, and I know you and love you and know your story. Anything I can do to help you see the beauty and general awesomeness I see in you is completely worth it to me, and I will listen to the ends of the earth if I have to.
I don't feel that way towards my clients, either. When I do sessions with people, we get to know each other through emails and calls before and after, and we spend several hours on the actual shoot, so we build a sort of relationship and an understanding there.
I guess it's just more frustrating with someone I don't know socially and haven't built any sort of relationship with, because I know I can't do anything to help them see the positive things that I see in them. And I can see where that'd get annoying, because I hate feeling powerless.
