Phone-shy

[batskeets]

Blegh. I know I've complained about this before, but I really need to get over myself when it comes to talking on the phone.

I have a potential client who e-mailed asking about ideas for a session, and she wrote back sounding very interested. BUT, then she she asked for my number so she could call me and discuss further, and of course, I really don't want to send it. For some reason, talking on the phone just strikes terror into me, and it's fairly silly.

My phone conversations always feel 100 times more awkward than my in-person conversations. I'm not sure why this is, but I suspect it's because, if you're not great with social interaction in general, you feel even worse when you don't have the added social cues you get by being able to see their face and body language. And, well, I've never really been the type to have long phone conversations, anyway--I'll call if I have a question to ask or details to work out, but "hey, how are you," calls are an almost-never rarity for me.

I guess it's not such a big thing from a social standpoint, since there's all kinds of electronic media that helps me keep in touch with people. But, if it starts to get in the way of my goals, then it needs to stop. I'm ridiculous about this and I need to calm the eff down.

If you ever wondered why I'm such a text junkie, now you know. ;p

ANYWAY, I made this last night: Tofu Fettuccini Alfredo. The sauce texture turns a bit weird when reheated in the microwave, but it still tastes fine. And when it's freshly-made, ommmnomnom!

Comments

[veiravx.livejournal.com]

I'm the exact same way. Phones = evil. I am the most awkward person ever on the phone. I'm sure psyching myself out about it every time I have to make a call doesn't help the situation. *le sigh*

[aniline.livejournal.com]

Ugh! No, phones are awful, especially for work stuff. It's not you, it's the horribleness of phones. heh. If I ever have to talk on the phone for work things I have to send an email afterwards summarizing just to make sure everyone is on the same page.

[ghost-girl.livejournal.com]

Oh dude, everyone I know hates talking on the phone. Me, Matt, Christy, the majority of my coworkers. I'm slowwwwwwwwwllly getting better about it. I can call in chinese food now! I still hate calling for pizza. (huzzah online ordering!)

[sarapada.livejournal.com]

I am 100% with you on phone stuff. Bleh!

[katlyn.livejournal.com]

I love talking on the phone. It's very hard for me to connect emotionally when dealing with text, or to not misinterpret meanings. I love the subtleties of voice communication.

But then again, I love laying in a dark room and talking at 2am, staring at the ceiling, and it's no different for me on the phone. I can't see their face, either.

Perhaps that's why the guy I'm "seeing" and I have such short phone conversations. No real reason to bullshit and look for an emotional conection. But my best friend and I can talk for 4 hours on the phone, and the ex and I... the first time we ever talked on the phone it was for 7 hours straight.

[divadrummer.livejournal.com]

I've talked with you on the phone before, and I think you're making too much of a big deal about it. Hopefully she just wants some info and not an ass-kissing. I'm sure it'll be OK :)

[katlyn.livejournal.com]

Apparently I forgot to say that, even so, I try to respect my friends who don't like the phone. But it's hard sometimes for me to feel I've connected to them.

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[sassanik.livejournal.com]

Yeah I am terrible about phones. If I don't know who is calling I almost always let it go to voicemail rather than picking it up.

[himitsu.livejournal.com]

I hate using the phone. If I have to call someone I don't know (whether it be work-related or making an appointment for something or what have you), I either try to find some other way to contact them or put it off as much as I can. I think you hit the nail on the head as to why - I often feel like I can't explain myself properly for some reason.

[virgoqueen7.livejournal.com]

I hate talking on the phone, I know what you mean. It would be hard to talk to someone too about work stuff that they were interested in. I'm terrible at selling myself, and great at promoting others. lol