This post is made of Whine

[batskeets]

Yep, it's whining time! What would LJ be without it? ;)

I've been having monster headaches for the past couple of weeks. I'm guessing it's dehydration, because even though I drink tons of water, the recent heat leaves me sweating buckets, so I'm probably losing a lot more than usual. Bleh.

I'm also having (dunt dunt duuuuhhhhh!) ankle problems. Again. I am still training normally, so it's not horrible, but the ankle is definitely crankier than usual. I'm applying ice, keeping on with my shin raises, and being careful with it, so hopefully it'll get better. Still, how wonderful that this should start less than two weeks before my first wushu demo in months. And by "wonderful," I mean, "crappy." ;p

Also: insoles are awesome. I got some the other day, and my high arches are loving it.

A thought that's been hanging on me, as of late: I think I need a best friend. That probably sounds ridiculous, but I'd say the last person I comfortably called my best friend moved away several years ago, so maybe it isn't so ridiculous. There are a few people who could easily be candidates, but they're thousands of miles away. It'd be hard to maintain a best-friendship when your waking hours are their sleeping hours.

The irritating thing is, you can't just go out and get a best friend, as if they're available for the taking at any time. And I'm not really the type to glom onto somebody in that "OMG LET'S BE BFFs!" sort of fashion. I imagine it's a lot like looking for a boyfriend, in that you only really find a terrific one when you're *not* looking for one. You can't force it or will it to happen.

I guess it's annoying, because there's no real guideline for what you're supposed to do, but I can't help feeling like I'm doing something wrong. :p

Okay, enough whining. I have a photoshoot tonight! I've had so many requests for rescheduling this month that it's getting really, really annoying, so let's hope today actually works out. :p

Comments

[alleycatsphinx.livejournal.com]

I appreciate the difficulty of making friends (and the feeling of not having someone you can trust to talk to...) - but over the years I've figured out kinda a strategy - maybe it can work for you?

The way to make friends (imho) is to put yourself in an enjoyable environment where you can meet people, but without trying to meet anyone in particular. Online even works. The key is being reliably present and building histories with these new people. Be friendly to everyone and that will grow your network of potentials until you eventually run across someone who's a compatible "bff" ;D Eventually people will start inviting groups out for related activities, and then the friendships are the environment, not just the original venue - and you're closer too.

Granted, these environments aren't automatically available (and the tricky part is finding something comfortable), but it's much easier to find such a place than it is to locate a friend directly. And remember, the key is two fold: friendliness to everyone (not neediness mind you) and consistently putting in face time with people. Trust is built by observing admirable behavior over a long periods of time.

Wushu is a great candidate, but that might not be the social circle you want to befriend more deeply - so try finding something more in line with your personal private interests. Good luck!

[muerte.livejournal.com]

Dude I had ankle problems recently too. Turns out my stomach problems, can also manifest as bad arthritis in your ankles/knees/hips. Not being able to walk really sucks. Luckily it's wearing off.

Hope your ankles feel better!

[halfempty.livejournal.com]

This approach strikes me as being a little detached and clinical, but whatever works...

[halfempty.livejournal.com]

Ben's not your bff? Mates count... ladyrune was my closest friend before, during, and after we were together for a few years.

[december-clouds.livejournal.com]

I need a best friend too, preferrably someone who does martial arts. Especially someone young. Everyone in all my martial arts classes are all 40+ males.

[skeets.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I'd love to make a wushu friend, but everyone in my class is either over-40 and married with kids, or actually is a kid. :/

[skeets.livejournal.com]

Well, yeah, Ben's on a BFF level; my long-term S.O.s usually have been. It's not quite the same as a best friend that you aren't dating, though, which is more what I'm after.

[skeets.livejournal.com]

Wow, that's bizarre that a stomach problem would cause joint issues. Get better soon!

[skeets.livejournal.com]

I actually really wouldn't mind having a really good wushu friend, but the people in my class are 40-ish and married with kids, or they actually *are* kids themselves. Yeah, excuses excuses, but it does make it hard to relate. :/

[december-clouds.livejournal.com]

I see we're in the same situation then. My aikido class has one for kids and one for adults. There's a guy who looks about 20 in there, and then everyone else is around 35+. The instructor himself is probably 65 and the assistant is also in his late 50s.

Aren't there any people in our age group who do martial arts? :/